Happy Empathy Day!

Happy Empathy Day? What’s that? Oh no! Not another weird American idea we are going to have to buy greetings cards for?

Today is actually the first Empathy Day. In relation to this post I should be calling it #EmpathyDay because hashtags and social media are one of the main cause for the recent lowering of empathy in society.

I remember when satellite TV came in. I wondered how we would cope with so much choice. We didn’t cope. We just burrowed our way through the dross to settle into our comfortable niches where we only have to watch what pleases us.

The internet and YouTube have had the same effect, while at one moment creating moments of national and international unity, most of the time we choose to burrow ever deeper into our tiny and personal media worlds.

I’ve really noticed it during this past election. In the last couple of years, I’ve actively not unfriended tweeters and face bookers who irritate me with their political views. Because of that choice, I’ve been party to a stream of political promotion from all sides. I wasn’t surprised by the result at all. I like to think I sit pretty much in the centre, and it became obvious that Jeremy Corbyn’s huge crowds had not been rented in but were real, enthusiastic supporters who were using the new media to promote themselves.

Similarly it was obvious that Theresa May was losing ground rapidly.

If I’d isolated myself, into what we now call an echo chamber, I’d have only heard one side of the political argument and would never appreciate or even be aware of anyone else’s position or views. Some I still do not understand, but at least I’m aware of them.

Now, after the result, I’m witness to tweets and messages of those who feel aggrieved, who are locked into their echo chambers and are not listening or being made aware of other forces and views around them. That can only lead to entrenchment and bitterness.

So, Empathy…

Empathy is not about kindness or helping people, it’s about understanding what it’s like to walk in someone else’s shoes. to see the world through other’s eyes. Empathy is the fast route to compromise and peaceful agreement.

So how do you build empathy? Firstly, by getting out of your cave and looking around. Then, talk to people who are not like you – not to argue and fight, but to find common elements of humanity.

What’s the easy way? Read books – not tweets or extracts.

A book takes a long time to write. The author truly considers every word they send to the printers. They’ve written those words several times overs and edited and re-written them many times too. Their editor has helped make sure that what they have said is what they mean.

Reading a book – a whole book, not an extract – is the easiest way to enter another human mind. Extracts can so easily be taken out of context and context is all.

The author may well change their mind after writing – you’ll have to read their next book to find out – but at their moment of writing and your moment of reading, though centuries may have passed, you can be one with their way of thinking.

Humans are hard-wired to love stories and learn from them. That’s why we are hooked by elections – what a great story! But most of all we love a character. This, so presidential election, was all about character.

Through sustained reading, we can become one with a character in a book, and help them carry the Ring to Mordor, or to suffer Tracey Beaker’s childhood with her – to share the fear of the Gruffalo and the wrath of the Minotaur with both mice and men. Through books and characters we can learn what it is like to be almost anyone else facing life-changing, ongoing, grinding every-day situations.

Through books, we can enter the minds of our friends and our enemies, heroes and failures, the great, the good and the unconsidered, un-noticed passer-by.

And the best part? By reading great stories, connecting with the past, the present and other people’s minds, we entertain ourselves, we learn and, most extraordinarily of all, we improve our reading, writing and communication skills along the way!

Reading for pleasure not only entertains, it educates and changes lives.

Try it. Come out of your cave, and you too can have a truly Happy Empathy Day!

To find out more about empathy day and how empathy can help boost reading and wring skills, got to the Empathy Lab website.

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